show up

If I had to theorize what a man has to do to become a great dad, I would say that all that he has to do is show up.

Now don’t misunderstand me. There are many intricacies, complexities and responsibilities to parenting that I don’t intend to minimize with that statement. But how many games, how many recitals, how many parent-teacher conferences, how many little kids faces would be forever changed if more dads would just show up? Sometimes the solution is just that simple.


Among the many roles that I fill, the one I’m most proud of is being a dad. Dads don’t get the respect that they deserve in our society. The media depicts them as absent, bumbling idiots, clueless, soulless or absent. Yeah, I said absent twice.

So, when I see a dad present in a movie or a commercial where he’s basking in a positive light, I take notice. I go so far as to cheer it and celebrate it.