This is the original post that led to what is now the 39 Lessons book series, now available for pre-order at amazon.com and wherever fine books are sold.
The legacy of a father is what he leaves in his stead for his children. I love my sons (and nephews) and the following are 39 lessons or observations I hope to teach (or have taught) them. This is, by no means, a comprehensive list.
- manhood is earned, not inherited
- there is a God
- you are not Him
- but God did make you special
- give more than you take
- don’t run with the crowd, unless you’re the leader
- make your life, your work
- never make work, your life
- losing is a sign that you’re trying
- never never never give up
- no one owes you anything
- true education starts after school ends
- money is not equal to success
- never lose self-control (unless you want to)
- healthy relationships are built on communication which leads to trust
- physical confrontation with a girl/woman = lose/lose odds
- credit card debt is a brutal master
- if you can’t afford it with cash, save for it or pass it by
- learning starts with leaving your comfort zone
- invest in teaching others what you learn
- love yourself before you expect a girl/woman to love you
- never point a gun that you’re not prepared to shoot
- some fights are best won by walking away
- don’t judge others just because they are different from you
- learn from the mistakes of others
- save more than you spend
- girls/women think completely different from you
- celebrate the differences
- give respect to others
- let your presence command respect from all
- give thanks daily for what you have
- it’s okay to cry
- smile more than you frown
- stand up straight
- (almost always) tell the truth
- look people in the eyes when you talk to them
- always get there early
- always consider the consequence
- seek God always