good grief

There are no happy endings.
Endings are the saddest part,
So just give me a happy middle
And a very happy start.
– Shel Silverstein, A Light in the Attic

Grief doesn’t change you. It reveals you. I believe in therapy. If you’re depressed or experiencing chronic grief, please talk to someone. In addition to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline (1.800.273.TALK), there are so many resources available online as well. You can talk to a professional in the privacy and comfort of your home. Here are some of the most highly referred online services to consider:

39 Lessons for Black Girls & Boys

Invisible Ennk is (black) proud to announce the next edition in the 39 Lessons series, 39 Lessons for Black Girls & Boys. It was released on February 1, 2020, just in time for Black History Month ✊🏽.

a Study Guide of 21

Spencer, the youngest of my two sons, turned 21 today. Two things spring to mind in that reflection.

One: I’m becoming quite seasoned. Two: I’m quite proud of the man he’s become.

In honor of him officially entering adulthood, I released two books today that are a collection of wisdom and lessons gleaned from being a parent and dad-figure. The series is entitled 39 Lessons.

These two books, 39 Lessons for Girls and 39 Lessons for Boys, are for both parents and children (as young as 6-years old) to enjoy.

The following is a bonus list of lessons that I include in the books that are actually an open letter to Spencer. Enjoy!

1. You are beautiful.

2. Love yourself.

3. Talk to God daily.

4. Ask too many questions.

5. It’s okay to not have all the answers.

6. Some times, baby steps.

7. Choose life everyday.

8. Life doesn’t come in fancy wrapping,
but it’s still a gift.

9. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do.

10. Don’t apologize for who you are.

11. Frame decisions with, “Will this matter tomorrow? In five years?”

12. Do what you say.

13. However good or bad the situation is,
it will/always/change.

14. Don’t rush it. Unless you’re racing.

15. Your body isn’t who you are.
Your character is.

16. Stop overthinking.

17. Crying with someone is better than healing alone.

18. Nothing lasts forever.

19. Before you do great things, do the small things well.

20. God loves you because of who God is,
not because of anything that you’ve done or didn’t do.

21. Stay curious.

The 39 Lessons book series is now available at amazon.com or wherever fine books are sold.

reset

Starting over
Is stopping first
Catch my breath
Quench my thirst
I have a question
What could be worst?
Let it bleed
Or hold back to burst?

To being anew
You let it end
Burn the remains
And then begin
East from west
Forgive the sin
What did I do?
I can’t remem…ber.

lies

Lies I’ve heard
From the start…

“Not that smart,
Ain’t got heart,
Plays no part,
Slow to start,
Below the chart,
Dull-eyed dart,
Unexpected fart,
Empty cart,

stop being disrespectful – the legal and respectful way to express your patriotism

Many of you likely love to brandish your American patriotism in some form, especially on July 4th. Your team spirit declaration may be expressed on hats, headwraps, t-shirts, fingernails, fanny packs or sneakers, just to name a few nationalistic accouterments.

But not so fast, patriot. If the United States flag is printed on any of these accessories or apparel, you may as well as be pledging your allegiance to Al-Qaeda.

dear Media, please stop.

Dear Media, I’ve endured your clickbait headlines that mislead. I’ve sorted through your articles that are nothing more than ads. I’ve even suffered your racist code words that are subtle yet effective to perpetuate stereotypes. But what I cannot and will not overlook is your obvious glee to purport images of slain or injured black and brown bodies as if we’re no more than eviscerated roadkill. Please stop.