love thy frenemies

Scripture teaches to ‘love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,’ but what about your frenemies? Isn’t that a little more difficult? A frenemy is a portmanteau of friend and enemy, like smog is a combination of smoke and fog. Fremenies portray friendship, but their motive is something much more sinister and akin to a rival.

With rivals, you know where you stand, but when someone betrays you, isn’t it near impossible to love and forgive that person? It can be, but I tell you… love them anyway. It’s not about giving that person a pass. It’s about not being controlled by any hateful thing.

When someone hurts you, distance yourself from that person and remove his/her ability to to continue to reek damage in your heart and life. Don’t be so occupied with anger that it leads you to become an enemy as well. While it may feel unnatural in these circumstances, practice love. It will mature you and you will discover a strength that, perhaps, you weren’t aware that you have.

Friendship is a verb. Be the friend that you want to see.

Published by kenn

best-selling author of 'Pious' and 'the Wedding & Disaster of Felona Mabel.' illustrator. front-end developer. Renaissance man.