the other side of fear

We all know fear. It’s that deep and foreboding sense that triggers us to fight, freeze or flee. But fear isn’t all bad. It can actually help dictate the actions we take next. Often, it can nudge us from a space of comfort and complacency that stagnates our growth and progression.

All that you desire is on the other side of fear.

love thy frenemies

Biblical scripture teaches to ‘love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,’ but what about your frenemies? Isn’t that a little more difficult? Where does any sacred text mention the word? How do you even pronounce it?

Pronounced frin-uh-me, a frenemy is a portmanteau of friend and enemy, like smog is a combination of smoke and fog. Fremenies portray friendship, but their motive is something much more sinister and akin to a rival. They comfortably enjoy the occupation of ally all the while exploiting the very trust that positioned them as close.

39 Lessons for Boys – extended

The legacy of a father is what he leaves in his stead for his children and those who have been in the shadow of his influence. I love my sons (and nephews and mentees) and the following are 39 lessons or observations I hope to teach (or have taught) them over the years. This is not a comprehensive list, but a good start.

1. manhood is earned, not inherited

The biological emergence of becoming a man should not be confused with manhood. Manhood is accepting responsibility for yourself and your actions, tending to the care and well-being of others and contributing to society.

2. there is a God

Acknowledging that there is a being greater than yourself, creates a sense of purpose and humility that fuels endless curiosity, seeking and learning.

3. you are not Him

Don’t be judgemental. Instead, be humble and know that everyone makes mistakes while deserving the same grace you’ve been given.

BHM and Being Invisible in February

We’re halfway through BHM and it has been everything but a celebration. From the ongoing divisive antics of a petty president to the embattled leadership at the highest state level wearing blackface as a party favor to the continuing collective silence on the pervasiveness of police brutality, I don’t feel my heritage is very much celebrated. If it is called out in any way, it seems to be more of a prop to promote a personal agenda (Kamala and Corey, I’m side-eyeing you).

Felona Mabel – gorgeous paperback

Finally finally, the Wedding & Disaster of Felona Mabel saw it’s worldwide paperback release today, June 9. I’m elated to share this epic project with you. I wrote the book, painted the cover, designed the title and composed the interior layout. You can get your gorgeous, signed paperback at felonamabel.com.

the Wedding & Disaster of Felona Mabel

Felona Mabel – eBook

Finally, the Wedding & Disaster of Felona Mabel saw it’s worldwide soft release today, May 16. I’m elated to finally share this epic project with you. I wrote the book, painted the cover, designed the title and composed the interior layout.

the Wedding & Disaster of Felona Mabel is available at amazon.com.

spring alliteration

today, I’m optimizing my optimism so much that my overall optic only sees opulent outcomes.

save one thing

If all of the things that you’re working toward right now were at the edge of a crumbling cliff and you only had time to save one thing before everything else fell into the abyss, which thing would you grab?

big, important or tall

Have you ever thought to yourself, “It’s not easy bein’ green?” No? Replace the word green with a word that better describes you – physically, culturally or situational. At one time or another, you’ve gone down the rabbit hole of comparing yourself to others and their situation. Don’t. That’s a one-way ticket to depression.

that’s NOT love

Love isn’t supposed to hurt – physically, psychologically, or sexually. If it does and that hurt is routine and intentional, that’s not love.

fall en

yesternight, full moon rocked
this night’s show, autumnal equinox
day and night are equal, again
yin and yang and us akin
spring, I fell forward
but now I just Fall in.

like Judas

if we’re truly honest with ourselves, we would be cognizant that we have the propensity to be like Judas while striving to be like Jesus. the enemy isn’t always charging toward us. sometimes, he is us. resist him, and moreover, be aware of negative influences – outside and inside.

know Your Worth

neither ignore nor indulge in people’s praise. instead, love and work with steady diligence, regardless of public response.

defense

thankfulness is the best defense against adversaries like anxiety, disappointment, depression and even despair, despite what strongholds have you right now. try it and see what happens. #defense

make your own

joy isn’t made in a factory or packaged for consumption, it’s made by you. fresh. daily. #makeYourOwnHappiness

where is your heart?

wherever you retreat without obligation, there your heart is also.

looking backward

looking backward is a temporal exercise for the eyes to strengthen them, so that they can better focus and look forward. #eyesForwardNow